Why Some People Are Drawn to Harmful Relationships
Love and pain can be a painful relationship combination. All relationship partners go through hard times and have to navigate them...
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Dr. Randi Gunther is a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor practicing in Southern California. In her forty-year career, she has accumulated over 100,000 face-to-face hours with individuals, couples, and families.
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7 days ago
5 Keys to Dating Re-Entry
4. Model what you want. Learning to live within the confines of the pandemic, many people severely reduced the number of people they hang...
Sep 30
Weaving the Past Into the Present for a Healthy Relationship
This crucial communication skill will help prevent issues from going unresolved. I have often observed a couple in an angry dispute,...
Sep 28
8 Ways Families of Origin Can Disrupt a New Relationship
The most common inter-family challenges young partners face. People seeking a successful relationship often do not realize how their...
Sep 26
7 Positive Signs That a Relationship Will Last
Safety, comfort, and emerging chivalry. New love is fragile and resilient . Partners in the initial stages of an intimate relationship...
Sep 21
Does Keeping You Mean Losing Me?
Are you in danger of losing yourself to stay in a relationship? In the early stages of a relationship, most people do everything they can...
Sep 18
Do You Spill Your Partner’s Secrets?
How couples go after each other with accusatory and invalidating expressions. When couples first come into therapy , I expect each to go...
Sep 17
You’re Gone. What Is Keeping Me from Moving On?
The sorrow of unrequited love is not easy for anyone to live through. Living through the sorrow of unrequited love is not easy,...
Sep 14
Putting Relationships First?
It may not always be the best way to live your life. Many people have told me how they are rethinking their investments in intimate...
Sep 11
Scheduling Love: Can Romance Survive?
Six possible behaviors you can implement for lasting love. Romance, in its most classic form, requires the availability of spontaneity...
Sep 7
8 Reasons People Stay in Harmful Relationships
6. Fear of not being needed. I have listened to many people ask this question. They know they are being taken advantage of by their...
Sep 5
Sham Apologies and How They Erode Trust
4 steps to change those behaviors, benefitting both your partner and yourself. What small child in the world has not heard the words,...
Aug 31
"Am I Safe With You?"
The challenge of traumatic regression. During the four decades I’ve practiced relationship therapy , I’ve had the same questions asked of...
Aug 30
Is There Any Way I Can Know if Our Love Will Last?
Love is impossible to intentionally create, control, or predict. Love is a fragile and vulnerable state of being and can manifest in...
Aug 28
Yo-Yo Relationship Patterns
How to deal with the fear of permanent attachment. Have you been in love with the same person for a long time but keep breaking off the...
Aug 24
The 10 Most Common Categories of Sexual Desire
Why self-acceptance is important in sexuality. I am a licensed relationship counselor, clinical psychologist, and certified sex...
Aug 21
How Guilt Can Destroy Relationship Intimacy
Relationships do not fare well when transactional patterns emerge. People of all ages feel guilty when they fear that they are not...
Aug 17
The 11 Most Desirable Qualities in a Partner
Accountability, translucence, chivalry, and more. Throughout my long career as a psychologist and marriage counselor, I have carefully...
Aug 15
The Most Crucial Skill Sets for Successful Communication
Good communication depends on two skill sets that can be mastered. I have spent more than four decades teaching basic communication...
Aug 10
Do You Know Who You’re Dating?
7 successful ways to find "missing footprints." When people grow up with the same friends and families that are intertwined, they leave...
Aug 7
Authentic Dating Profiles: Who You Really Are
Present the reality of who you are with self-compassion and respect. Over the last couple of decades, my patients have often brought me...
Aug 3
10 Behaviors That Can Push People Away
4. Endless rehashing. Whether due to media advice or social pressures, most people strive to present what are their most desirable and...
Aug 2
How One Intimate Partner Can Sabotage Relationship Rehab
Here are eight common behaviors that characterize unconscious sabotage. Anyone who has been in a long-term relationship knows that they...
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