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Dr. Randi Gunther is a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor practicing in Southern California. In her forty-year career, she has accumulated over 100,000 face-to-face hours with individuals, couples, and families.
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12 minutes ago
How to Hurt Me - How to Love Me
Become more confident in knowing how to accurately love each other. In working with couples for over four decades, I have rarely heard...
3 days ago
The Ten Qualities of Great Communicators
How good are you as a communicator? There are many books and articles that teach intimate partners the art of effective communication....
7 days ago
6 Ways Couples Can Tell That a Relationship Has What It Takes
6 areas to help you decide. So many promising relationships don’t last. Despite the partners trying everything, they can’t seem to make...
Jan 9
The Missing Piece in Intimate Communication
Learn and embrace these 7 concepts. The most common barrier to authentic relationship intimacy is ineffective communication. Despite all...
Jan 9
When and What Should You Share in a New Relationship?
Navigate tiers of vulnerability while building trust through gradual disclosure. Whether you are looking for a new relationship on dating...
Jan 5
Can Sweet Memories Neutralize Conflict?
Five common conflict responses and the neutralizing effects of loving recall When intimate partners fight to win, their conflicts can...
Jan 3
6 Keys to Staying in Love
6. Always respond to your partner's urgency. In the dating world, most intimate relationships don’t turn into long-term commitments....
Dec 30, 2024
The Ten Qualities of Great Communicators
How good are you as a communicator? There are many books and articles that teach intimate partners the art of effective communication....
Dec 27, 2024
Relationship Alert: When Givers Become Takers
Many intimate partners forget that a level of treasuring must be maintained. New romantic partners want to care for each other in every...
Dec 23, 2024
6 Reasons People Regret Ending Relationships Too Soon
The most common reasons people leave relationships too soon. New love is entrancing and brings out the best in most people. Sadly, those...
Dec 21, 2024
10 Signs of Truly Loving Relationships
Can we do anything now to turn things around? In the magical uncertainty of new romance, every couple creates its own emotional language....
Dec 21, 2024
I Can’t Change You, I Can’t Love You, and I Can’t Leave You
Learn three steps to break free and build a happier life. There are many reasons why people stay in relationships despite feeling...
Dec 18, 2024
4 Questions All Intimate Partners Should Ask Each Other
Learn about your partner’s definitions of intimacy. The experience of intimacy is complicated and easily misunderstood, for new lovers...
Dec 14, 2024
Love Is Easy
Relationships are hard. Many of my patients are left bewildered when their hopeful romances fade away. They sincerely believed that each...
Dec 11, 2024
Have Your Defenses Become Your Prison?
The most common defense response patterns in intimate adult relationships. Most people respond defensively when they feel attacked. It is...
Dec 7, 2024
Can Sweet Memories Neutralize Conflict?
Five common conflict responses and the neutralizing effects of loving recall When intimate partners fight to win, their conflicts can...
Dec 6, 2024
Childhood Trauma: How Triggered Immaturity Destroys Intimacy
Past traumas that resurface in present relationships create unnecessary pain. Every couple I’ve ever worked with has their dark...
Dec 4, 2024
10 Reasons Why Some People Cannot Let Go of an Ex
The sorrow of unrequited love. Most people will eventually heal after a relationship ends, especially if both partners mutually agreed to...
Nov 30, 2024
How Is Your Relationship Really Doing?
11 subtle warnings. Most intimate couples sense when their relationship is in trouble. When discord is brewing, one or both of the...
Nov 27, 2024
How Infidelity Causes Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
Healing from betrayal. Of all of the threats to a committed relationship I have treated in four decades of working with couples, the most...
Nov 23, 2024
When Negative Interactions Trigger Past Traumas
There are four consistent truths about intimate partner conflicts. There are four consistent truths about intimate partner conflicts. In...
Nov 21, 2024
When Words Fail: Transform Negative Communication Patterns
Learn to break toxic cycles and rebuild meaningful communication without words. There are reasons why poetry moves us. Masters of the...
Nov 20, 2024
How the Most Successful Couples Keep Their Passion Alive
How to turn new love's magic into forever love. Passion and sexuality are synonymous experiences for new lovers. The intensity and...
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