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Dr. Randi Gunther is a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor practicing in Southern California. In her forty-year career, she has accumulated over 100,000 face-to-face hours with individuals, couples, and families.
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Coming Home – When Old Loves Rekindle
Past intimate partners can reunite and be more in love than they once were. In my 40 years of counseling couples, one phenomenon never...
2 days ago
8 Sources of Repeating Negative Patterns in Relationships
Are your interaction behaviors destroying your relationship? I have worked with couples for five decades. They have trusted me to help...
6 days ago
7 Things You Must Do to Keep Believing in Love
You can endure failed relationships without retreating into a shell. If you are like most people, you were more vulnerable and open when...
Apr 12
Touch and Go Relationships – Do they have to be Superficial?
How does our cynical culture prevent new relationships from blossoming? Most of the relationship-seekers I talk with today have had a...
Apr 9
Rigid Gender Roles: Enemies of the New Intimacy
The truth about male and female roles in committed relationships. Living within traditional male and female roles in committed...
Apr 5
Can Texting Sabotage Emotional Intimacy?
Texting has the power to damage intimate relationships. Texting is one of the modern miracles of our time, but, despite its obvious...
Apr 2
14 Secrets to a Great Relationship
2. Courageous openness. There are so many places for couples to get advice on what behaviors make a great relationship thrive, and last....
Mar 29
A Deeply Meaningful Way to Communicate With Your Partner
I have named this communication technique, “The Art of Translation” There are countless articles and books that teach how intimate...
Mar 26
Contrasting Expressions of Love
Create magical, long-term relationships by translating your love language. The thoughts, feelings, and actions of love are some of the...
Mar 23
All In: The Courage to Commit Without Guarantee
For love without limits, embrace authenticity, risk, and full engagement. Successful relationships are often described as those that...
Mar 21
Are You Withholding Love?
Many wounded people put walls around their vulnerability. Relationship seekers today are likely to go through a series of lovers before...
Mar 19
Is Lying Part of Loving?
How distortion of the truth may help maintain harmony in intimate relationships. The idea that lying occurs in all intimate...
Mar 15
When Trauma Disrupts Love
Learn the difference between normal feelings of anxiety and a current crisis. Most people will likely experience anxiety or depression ...
Mar 12
No-Win Conflicts in Intimate Relationships
How you resolve your arguments affects the state of your relationship . For more than four decades, I have been helping couples repair...
Mar 8
Are You a Fragile Partner? The Need for Shared Resiliency
Build shared strength by fostering resilience in your relationship . One of the most important characteristics of successful relationship...
Mar 7
How to End a Relationship With Someone Who Still Loves You
3. Hear them out without getting defensive. Most people who commit to a long-term relationship feel positive about their chances of...
Mar 5
The 12 Most Common Ways Partners Manipulate Each Other
Do you acknowledge or admit if manipulation is being used in your relationship? Despite their intent to be authentic and open, many...
Feb 28
Misunderstood in Texts? Broaden Your Emotional Vocabulary
Emotional texting: Choosing words that truly connect. Whether planning events, sharing thoughts and feelings in the moment, or just...
Feb 24
Should You Rush Into a Relationship?
Do you think that dating several people at the same time is the right way to go? People seeking relationships have more options to meet...
Feb 22
Dating a Man Who Is Separated but Not Yet Divorced?
Learn some of the cues you need to be aware of. This is one of the most common dilemmas my patients have brought to me over the past four...
Feb 18
Can a Relationship Survive After Betrayal?
Betrayals come in many forms. Can any be overcome? In my four decades of being a relationship therapist, over half of the couples who...
Feb 15
Me vs. Us
Balancing personal needs with relationship commitment. Commitment to a long-term relationship depends on both partners believing that...
Feb 12
20 Questions That Could Strengthen Your Relationship
… and why every relationship needs a balance of security and unpredictability. Most intimate couples work hard to keep their relationship...
Feb 8
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