ARTICLES & VIDEOS | Randi Gunther

ARTICLES

Dr. Randi Gunther is a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor practicing in Southern California. In her forty-year career, she has accumulated over 100,000 face-to-face hours with individuals, couples, and families.

Are You Afraid to Trust Love Again?

Five ways to ensure more success the next time around. In the last two decades, the internet dating world has exploded. From the pioneers...

Agony/Ecstasy Relationships

A different perspective. All intimate relationships have intensive moments that range from joy to heartbreak. Depending on their...

Taboo Topics

Saboteurs of effective communication. Many couples work hard at mastering the skills of effective communication. Yet, they find that they...

Should You Always Be Available to Your Partner?

There are five stages of availability, each with its own set of non-verbal cues. All relationship partners want their needs to be high...

The Danger of Emotional Detachment

"I Don't Know You Anymore." Committed intimate partners know how important it is that they stay emotionally connected to each other....

10 Underrated Qualities That Make a Person Sexy

Sexiness is not defined by sexual desirability alone. Most people define sexy people as “hot,” “titillating,” “seductive,” and highly...

Groundhog Day Relationships

Has your partnership lost its sparkle? By the time partners seek couples counseling, many are emotionally and physically weary of...

The Hidden Enemies of Love

Six signs of potential sabotage. Most people begin each new relationship hoping that it will be the one that flourishes. Fueled with new...

Forever on Trial

What causes people to constantly test their romantic partners? The hard work of creating and maintaining great relationships is an...

Do Mismatched Relationships Work?

Disparities can result in challenges, they can also create positive outcomes. Most people believe that compatibility is high on the list...

Don’t Let My Anger Drive You Away

A destructive relationship pattern in which pain becomes rage. Are you a person who lashes out in anger when you’re hurt? Does your...

Divorced but Still Living Together?

There are four areas that seem to become the most problematic. Divorce is not easy for any couple. Because most committed relationships...

8 Rules That Turn Rehashing Into Resolution

Rehashing will never resolve any conflict. Every couple fights. And they should. Disharmony allows grievances to be aired. And because...

Isolated Too Long?

Here's how to cope with re-entry dating anxiety. Dating in the era of multimedia technology is a challenge in and of itself. But...

6 Things People Say That Push Their Partners Away

These words of alienation can destroy a relationship. Every couple has arguments. They are a necessary part of increasing understanding...

Sequential Relationships: A New Way to Love

When learning to love requires letting go of attachment. In today’s revolving-door dating world, many people find long-term love...

How Bitter Breakups Scar Future Relationships

The more that people love deeply, the more they hurt when that love dies. Creating a successful long-term relationship is not easy. There...

Dispelling the Myth of Unconditional Love

Unconditional love is an illusion. Sacrifices and gifts are the reality. In the four-plus decades I’ve been treating patients, I have...

Owning Your Hidden Agendas

5 steps to move towards more honest communication. When intimate partners talk to each other, they most often express only part of their...

Dealing With Defensive Walls

What to do when havens become prisons. Very few people escape some form of trauma in their lives. Most survive those personal tragedies...