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Dr. Randi Gunther is a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor practicing in Southern California. In her forty-year career, she has accumulated over 100,000 face-to-face hours with individuals, couples, and families.

10 Behaviors That Can Push People Away

4. Endless rehashing. When it comes to maintaining healthy relationships , both personal and professional, there are certain behaviors...

Aug 3, 2024

How One Intimate Partner Can Sabotage Relationship Rehab

Here are eight common behaviors that characterize unconscious sabotage. Anyone who has been in a long-term relationship knows that they...

Aug 2, 2024

How to Create a Meaningful Interaction on a First Date

When getting to know someone, people can be hesitant to show their true selves. People usually communicate in layers of increasing...

Jul 31, 2024

8 Things Intimate Relationships Are Not Supposed to Be

2. An exploitation of vulnerability. To keep a relationship thriving, intimate partners make sure they do not betray, that they work as a...

Jul 27, 2024

8 Crucial Behaviors for Better Communication

4. Proximity without preoccupation. Open and vulnerable communication between intimate partners is at the core of a relationship’s...

Jul 24, 2024

How I Betray Myself in My Intimate Relationships

Here are 7 questions a person must be able to fully answer to free themselves. As an intimate relationship begins to falter, its partners...

Jul 20, 2024

10 Ways Partners Unintentionally Destroy Relationships

2. Focusing on what isn't working. By the time couples come to see me, they are often worn down by their repeated and harmful...

Jul 17, 2024

Can New Love Heal a Past Heartbreak?

Fear of failure can haunt people suffering from the grief of relationship loss. Many people who have experienced the sorrow of an...

Jul 17, 2024

6 Reasons We Can Love More Than One Person at a Time

4. Feeling more secure knowing there's a "backup." When my patients ask me this question, they are often considering, or already involved...

Jul 16, 2024

10 No-Win Relationship Gridlocks

6. Accuser vs. excuser. Most couples come into therapy to resolve a current crisis or to work on bettering their relationship. Each...

Jul 13, 2024

All My Relationships Fail

People who are drowning in self-doubt often wonder if they're the problem. When patients come to me with this honest and sincere...

Jul 11, 2024

10 Challenges When Reconnecting With an Ex

8. Is there anger or disappointment still unspoken? You and a past intimate partner have met again and both of you realize that you still...

Jul 10, 2024

8 Dangers of Empty Threats in a Relationship

The eight most likely outcomes that empty threats can create. In the four-plus decades I’ve been working with couples, I have had the...

Jul 6, 2024

Too Many Choices: Online Dating Overload

How does a reasonable person use online dating more successfully? When people grew up in small towns, they knew early on who their...

Jul 4, 2024

When Is Couple’s Therapy the Right Choice?

Here are 10 areas that partners can expect to explore in therapy together. Having spent the better part of five decades working with...

Jul 3, 2024

The 9 Challenges Couples Are Most Likely to Face

Most partners will eventually face at least some of these dilemmas. New love is abundant with resources. The partners in a new...

Jul 1, 2024

Are You Afraid of Love?

It is crucial that all relationship seekers address fear. So many people ask me how they can create great relationships and how they make...

Jun 30, 2024

10 Troubling Signs of Dying Intimacy

Declining patience, interest, touch, and more. Relationship intimacy is the haven of emotional security that committed partners share...

Jun 28, 2024

Why Some Partners Seduce and Abandon

... and why those who are abandoned still want to save them. Over the four-plus decades I have been a relationship therapist, I have seen...

Jun 27, 2024

7 Words We Should Ban From Our Relationships

Invalidation, manipulation, and hitting below the belt. Painful, insulting, or invalidating words leave invisible scars but can destroy...

Jun 21, 2024

9 Things Everyone Should Understand About Love

It's stress-responsive, vulnerable, and hard to heal. When I have asked people over the years what love means to them, I’ve gotten many...

Jun 19, 2024

The 10 Most Important Dimensions of Any Relationship

These relationship measures could tell you whether or not yours is healthy. Relationships are living entities. They move backward and...