9 Important Principles That Define Quality Relationships
Do not feel defeated if your relationship doesn’t include all of them. In working with couples for more than four decades, I have been...
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Dr. Randi Gunther is a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor practicing in Southern California. In her forty-year career, she has accumulated over 100,000 face-to-face hours with individuals, couples, and families.
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The 5 Wounds of Infidelity
Each can have multiple complications. Much has been explored and written about infidelity and its deleterious effect on relationships....
How Self-Centered Pride Destroys Intimacy
The Most Effective Antidote is Humility Healthy love is life-sustaining. For most people, their core foundation of personal value comes...
Are You Long-Term Relationship Material?
Here are the five most important issues to explore. I have spent the last four decades helping people navigate the dating scene to help...
Emotionally Trapped
"I can’t endure you, I can’t change you, and I can’t leave you." Relationship partners suffer in these relationships because they feel...
Relationship Crises
10 successful responses when a relationship faces unexpected challenges. All relationship partners face unexpected challenges. Some of...
Dealing With Defensive Walls
What to do when havens become prisons. Very few people escape some form of trauma in their lives. Most survive those personal tragedies...
Retaliation and Retribution in Romantic Relationships
The dark sides of love gone wrong. The emotional bond between committed lovers gives each entry into the others’ deepest and most...
How Love Can Conquer Fear
Staying connected in times of crisis. All people’s emotions are intensified when they face traumatic challenges. When intimate partners...
Kindness Revisited
Healing in the midst of chaos. Many people are facing hard challenges amid this heart-breaking crisis. They are deeply concerned about...
Emotional Castration
5 things to do if you are an emotional castrator. Most people think of castration as the physical destruction of testes or ovaries. But...
When Your Dating Profile and the Rest of You Collide
When they collide Relationship seekers today have access to a virtual smorgasbord of potential partner options. And they are using them...
Secret Relationships
Should they always be condemned? Most people think of secret relationships as sexual infidelities. The feelings of betrayal, humiliation,...
10 Behaviors That Can Destroy a Relationship
Some are so damaging that they destroy any hope for reconciliation. Relationships require that the participants are willing to invest...
Can Crises Make Your Relationship Better?
All people, at some times in their lives, face loss, grief My grandmother came from a time and a place where she expected that extreme...
What Predicts a Great Match?
There are nine crucial areas that predict compatibility. There was a time in the not-so-distant past when finding a soul mate was not...
When Old Loves Haunt
Intrusive ghosts from the past. Experiences from prior relationships will, in various ways, infiltrate those that follow. But new love...
The Cost of Love
Love is never free. There is always a price to pay for what each partner gives. People newly in love joyfully care for each other in...
8 Common Myths About Intimate Relationships
Dynamics seen repeatedly in struggling couples. The many ways that people seek, build, or destroy their relationships, never cease to...
10 Phrases That Create Defensiveness
Defensiveness is one of the most destructive saboteurs of communication. Of the many saboteurs of effective communication, defensiveness...
Why Don't You Trust Me?
The pain of being eternally tested. I have heard many sorrowful stories about how painful it is to feel unloved. Human beings have a core...
Hidden Messages
What you don't say matters. Successful communication between intimate partners is crucial to the success of their relationship. When it...
Go Away but Don’t Leave Me
What causes people to act in emotionally reactive ways? There are people who are able to stay calm under stress. When their partners...
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