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Dr. Randi Gunther is a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor practicing in Southern California. In her forty-year career, she has accumulated over 100,000 face-to-face hours with individuals, couples, and families.

Misunderstood in Texts? Broaden Your Emotional Vocabulary

Emotional texting: Choosing words that truly connect. Whether planning events, sharing thoughts and feelings in the moment, or just...

Feb 24

Should You Rush Into a Relationship?

Do you think that dating several people at the same time is the right way to go? People seeking relationships have more options to meet...

Feb 22

Dating a Man Who Is Separated but Not Yet Divorced?

Learn some of the cues you need to be aware of. This is one of the most common dilemmas my patients have brought to me over the past four...

Feb 18

Can a Relationship Survive After Betrayal?

Betrayals come in many forms. Can any be overcome? In my four decades of being a relationship therapist, over half of the couples who...

Feb 15

Me vs. Us

Balancing personal needs with relationship commitment. Commitment to a long-term relationship depends on both partners believing that...

Feb 12

20 Questions That Could Strengthen Your Relationship

… and why every relationship needs a balance of security and unpredictability. Most intimate couples work hard to keep their relationship...

Feb 8

The 10 Rules of Love

How to reach deeply into the true psyche of lasting love. In an increasingly insecure dating world, many patients ask me for simple...

Feb 5

Do You Keep Choosing the Wrong Partners?

Are humans traders by nature? Dating is often a fruitless search. Even though single people are filled with hopes and expectations at the...

Feb 1

Intriguing Dating Profiles

How to construct an authentic online dating profile. Since online dating began, many of my patients have shared dating profiles of...

Jan 29

Do You Hit Below the Belt When You Fight?

4 steps to establish your triggers and work to avoid them. When couples argue, they often challenge one another with punch and...

Jan 25

15 Questions to Help You Decide You're Ready to Date Again

Are you feeling good enough about yourself to go back "on the block?” Many relationship-seekers feel like the walking wounded. And...

Jan 23

5 Crucial Pillars of Trust: The Foundation of Relationship Success

How to build trust through shared values, mutual support, vulnerability, and growth. Every relationship partner I have ever encountered...

Jan 22

How to Hurt Me - How to Love Me

Become more confident in knowing how to accurately love each other. In working with couples for over four decades, I have rarely heard...

Jan 19

The Ten Qualities of Great Communicators

How good are you as a communicator? There are many books and articles that teach intimate partners the art of effective communication....

Jan 16

6 Ways Couples Can Tell That a Relationship Has What It Takes

6 areas to help you decide. So many promising relationships don’t last. Despite the partners trying everything, they can’t seem to make...

Jan 12

The Missing Piece in Intimate Communication

Learn and embrace these 7 concepts. The most common barrier to authentic relationship intimacy is ineffective communication. Despite all...

Jan 9

When and What Should You Share in a New Relationship?

Navigate tiers of vulnerability while building trust through gradual disclosure. Whether you are looking for a new relationship on dating...

Jan 9

6 Keys to Staying in Love

6. Always respond to your partner's urgency. Maintaining love in a relationship takes effort, understanding , and intentionality. While...

Jan 3

Relationship Alert: When Givers Become Takers

Many intimate partners forget that a level of treasuring must be maintained. New romantic partners want to care for each other in every...

Dec 27, 2024

6 Reasons People Regret Ending Relationships Too Soon

The most common reasons people leave relationships too soon. New love is entrancing and brings out the best in most people. Sadly, those...

Dec 23, 2024

10 Signs of Truly Loving Relationships

Can we do anything now to turn things around? In the magical uncertainty of new romance, every couple creates its own emotional language....

Dec 21, 2024

I Can’t Change You, I Can’t Love You, and I Can’t Leave You

Learn three steps to break free and build a happier life. There are many reasons why people stay in relationships despite feeling...