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Dr. Randi Gunther is a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor practicing in Southern California. In her forty-year career, she has accumulated over 100,000 face-to-face hours with individuals, couples, and families.
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Can a Relationship Survive After Betrayal?
Betrayals come in many forms. Can any be overcome? In my four decades of being a relationship therapist, over half of the couples who...
Feb 15
Me vs. Us
Balancing personal needs with relationship commitment. Commitment to a long-term relationship depends on both partners believing that...
Feb 12
20 Questions That Could Strengthen Your Relationship
… and why every relationship needs a balance of security and unpredictability. Most intimate couples work hard to keep their relationship...
Feb 8
The 10 Rules of Love
How to reach deeply into the true psyche of lasting love. In an increasingly insecure dating world, many patients ask me for simple...
Feb 5
Do You Keep Choosing the Wrong Partners?
Are humans traders by nature? Dating is often a fruitless search. Even though single people are filled with hopes and expectations at the...
Feb 1
Intriguing Dating Profiles
How to construct an authentic online dating profile. Since online dating began, many of my patients have shared dating profiles of...
Jan 29
Do You Hit Below the Belt When You Fight?
4 steps to establish your triggers and work to avoid them. When couples argue, they often challenge one another with punch and...
Jan 25
15 Questions to Help You Decide You're Ready to Date Again
Are you feeling good enough about yourself to go back "on the block?” Many relationship-seekers feel like the walking wounded. And...
Jan 23
5 Crucial Pillars of Trust: The Foundation of Relationship Success
How to build trust through shared values, mutual support, vulnerability, and growth. Every relationship partner I have ever encountered...
Jan 22
How to Hurt Me - How to Love Me
Become more confident in knowing how to accurately love each other. In working with couples for over four decades, I have rarely heard...
Jan 19
The Ten Qualities of Great Communicators
How good are you as a communicator? There are many books and articles that teach intimate partners the art of effective communication....
Jan 16
6 Ways Couples Can Tell That a Relationship Has What It Takes
6 areas to help you decide. So many promising relationships don’t last. Despite the partners trying everything, they can’t seem to make...
Jan 12
The Missing Piece in Intimate Communication
Learn and embrace these 7 concepts. The most common barrier to authentic relationship intimacy is ineffective communication. Despite all...
Jan 9
When and What Should You Share in a New Relationship?
Navigate tiers of vulnerability while building trust through gradual disclosure. Whether you are looking for a new relationship on dating...
Jan 9
6 Keys to Staying in Love
6. Always respond to your partner's urgency. Maintaining love in a relationship takes effort, understanding , and intentionality. While...
Jan 3
Relationship Alert: When Givers Become Takers
Many intimate partners forget that a level of treasuring must be maintained. New romantic partners want to care for each other in every...
Dec 27, 2024
6 Reasons People Regret Ending Relationships Too Soon
The most common reasons people leave relationships too soon. New love is entrancing and brings out the best in most people. Sadly, those...
Dec 23, 2024
10 Signs of Truly Loving Relationships
Can we do anything now to turn things around? In the magical uncertainty of new romance, every couple creates its own emotional language....
Dec 21, 2024
I Can’t Change You, I Can’t Love You, and I Can’t Leave You
Learn three steps to break free and build a happier life. There are many reasons why people stay in relationships despite feeling...
Dec 21, 2024
4 Questions All Intimate Partners Should Ask Each Other
Learn about your partner’s definitions of intimacy. The experience of intimacy is complicated and easily misunderstood, for new lovers...
Dec 18, 2024
Love Is Easy
Relationships are hard. Many of my patients are left bewildered when their hopeful romances fade away. They sincerely believed that each...
Dec 14, 2024
Have Your Defenses Become Your Prison?
The most common defense response patterns in intimate adult relationships. Most people respond defensively when they feel attacked. It is...
Dec 11, 2024
Can Sweet Memories Neutralize Conflict?
Five common conflict responses and the neutralizing effects of loving recall When intimate partners fight to win, their conflicts can...
Dec 7, 2024
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