The Two Most Important Communication Skills
Weaving the Past Into an Empathic Present I’ve been teaching couples how to successfully communicate for over four decades and have never...
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Dr. Randi Gunther is a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor practicing in Southern California. In her forty-year career, she has accumulated over 100,000 face-to-face hours with individuals, couples, and families.
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Sex, Actually
The 15 most significant variables that define your sexuality. For more than four decades, I have been a practicing psychologist, marriage...
Are You Often the “Giver” in Your Intimate Relationships?
Eight reasons why people end up being the primary givers. Over the past four decades, I have so often listened to couples sharing their...
I Love My Partner—But Could There Be Someone Better?
Most single people now have multiple options for dating adventures. Many of my patients have agonized over this kind of conflict. They’re...
What's Keeping Me in a Dying Relationship?
When attachments prolong suffering. By the time couples come to me for help, they have often tried hard on their own to make their...
When Should You Trust?
The Accurate Prediction of Relationship Behaviors Throughout my four decades as a relationship therapist, I’ve too often witnessed how...
8 Behaviors That Signal a Relationship Is in Trouble
How couples can see darkness looming early enough to turn things around. I have spent the last four decades helping both established and...
Ego-Free, Role-Free Relationships
Are they the trend of the future? The challenging of relationship roles and what they mean to both men and women is transforming in...
Escalating Stages of Conflict
From Friend to Enemy All relationship partners have differences, but how they express and resolve those differences will predict whether...
10 Ways Long-Term Couples Work to Keep Their Love Alive
Learn the basic behaviors that can deepen and maintain a long-term relationship. Despite the readily-available relationship advice,...
Did You Really Hear What I Meant?
Crucial misunderstandings in conflict situations. In the four decades I’ve been working with couples, I’ve heard this phrase many times...
Can You Save a Dying Relationship?
The six crucial steps to reviving a dying relationship. Throughout my 40-plus years of working with couples, I have witnessed many...
7 Steps to a Unique First Date
How to be the best date you can be from the moment you meet a new person. If you are like most relationship seekers today, you may have...
Double Standards
Using double standards to win arguments with your partner can destroy intimacy. All partners in intimate relationships are bound, at...
How Anger Affects Intimate Relationships
The 10 most common anger styles and how most partners respond to them. Angry exchanges are bound to happen between intimate partners....
Imagery: The True Language of Intimate Communication
Successful communication between intimate partners is crucial to their success. Successful communication between intimate partners is...
What Forms Your Sexuality?
Sexual self-awareness is the key to enjoying intimacy with a partner. When people come into couple’s therapy, they are usually very...
Emotional Self-Blackmail
When compromising is self-destructive. It is natural for people to want to control their lives and meet their personal needs, and most...
When Anger Turns Mean
From caring disagreements to adversarial retaliation All intimate partners say or do things they later regret, especially when they are...
Are You the Only One Trying to Fix Your Relationship?
It is hard to change a relationship by yourself. I’ve spent more than four decades helping intimate couples turn their troubled...
Is It Too Late for Us?
An Evaluation Questionnaire for Couples in Distress Most long-term intimate relationships go through similar stages. They begin with...
After the Fight — Making Up the Right Way
Going from enemies to lovers again. When couples fight, they often make reckless and mean-spirited statements that they often regret when...
Can You Read Your Partner's Moods?
A communication exercise for couples. Many intimate partners believe they can accurately read the other’s moods. Most of the time they...
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